Hi Amanda, thanks very much for your feedback. It makes me really happy when I know my writing is helping others.

I think those of us with BPD have all done some terrible things in our life — things we’re ashamed of, and won’t forget — but we must also remember we did them without intent. We didn’t have the skills or knowledge to do any better, so I like to think we should be kind to ourselves for this reason.

I too have recovered, and like you it is also down to my partner. I hope everyone with BPD can see from this, however long in takes recovery from is possible. I found at least for me, before I could find a loving relationship, I first had to learn skills in self-regulation, which created remission. (It’s no use pursuing a relationship first, as it causes more damage to ourselves and others.) When I reached remission, I got married and reached recovery.

And yes it’s depressingly ironic. It’s up to all of us to keep educating others, so those with BPD will get good treatment without the stigma.

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